From Your Heart
By Sue Urda
What's in your heart? What's really in your heart?
Do you know? Have you thought about it lately?
So many of us live our day-to-day lives simply
going through the motions. We just go on doing
the things we've always done. We talk to the same
people about the same things, eat the same food
at the same restaurants, watch the same TV programs
week after week and think the same thoughts we've
always thought. We don't take the time to explore
our hearts and to decide if what we are doing,
thinking and spending our time on are the things
that truly matter to us.
Take a moment and think about your day yesterday.
Was it lived from your heart? Did you do things
that had real "feelings" attached to
them? Did you get done the things that are meaningful
to you - even one thing? Did you have an intimate
conversation with someone you love? Did you make
sure the people you love felt loved? If you answer
yes to any of these, you are on the right track!
If you're not sure, there's an easy way to learn
to live from your heart.
As you prepare for your day each morning, ask
yourself two simple questions:
1. WHAT is most important to me today? And,
2. WHO is most important to me today?
As you ask yourself, make sure you're not just
reciting the answers - really FEEL the answers.
Visualize them. Breathe deeply as you think about
them. You'll notice a couple things
of your answers will bring joy and a smile to
your face, and others may bring a hollow pit to
your stomach and a sense of dread. When you recognize
these feelings or others like them, you will know
that you are "thinking" from your heart.
Now, take those things that present negative
feelings and DECIDE if in fact you have to deal
with them at all. Some of them may be things that
are important to other people, not you. If you
may choose to deal with them because those people
are important to you, then make an agreement with
yourself to do them quickly and well and move
on to something else. You will find that completing
unpleasant yet necessary things quickly will "free
you" to truly live and enjoy your life. You
are likely to feel more of a sense of accomplishment
and freedom as you move on to the things that
your heart really desires.
Now, take those important things that present
positive, glowing, loving emotions and dwell on
them. Plan your day to include the people and
things you love. Call your Mom or your sister,
hug your friends and your kids, set aside time
to exercise or pray or meditate, volunteer your
time to a neighbor or a committee, look into a
vacation spot for the summer - then, write a list
of "important things to do" and DO at
least one of them - today!
You'll notice that your list will change from
day to day. Some will drop in from time to time,
and others will appear once and never return to
your list. Your list will evolve as you grow and
change, and as you get more in the habit of living
from your heart. Instead of constantly experiencing
regret and frustration, you'll experience more
joy and purpose.
Imagine if we all lived our lives from our heart,
what a different world this might be. Imagine
it to be full of adventure, fun, laughter and
joy. Imagine it to be full of peace, love, forgiveness,
faith, and hope. A world of sharing, caring and
giving - and mostly, a world full of heart.
Sue Urda is the Co-Founder of
Powerful You! Women's Network and a two-time Inc.
500 Fastest-Growing Private Companies honoree.
Sue's vision is to contribute to women helping
women succeed in business and in life and to expand
Powerful You! by creating chapters everywhere.