Your Goals: Why are You Procrastinating?

By Mary Ann Bailey, MC

I was recently talking with my business coach about some new marketing ideas I wanted to try. He asked me a couple of questions about what I had in mind and then said, "They sound great. What are you waiting for?"

Before I knew it, I started telling him a story about all the things I needed to finish before I could possibly start implementing any of my ideas. I had a book to write, I had clients to see, I had meetings to go to and the list went on. Before I could go very far down that road, my coach stopped me and asked me again: "What are you waiting for?"

In that moment, I realized how easily I could create logical reasons why I couldn't start working on my new ideas. There was no real thought or truth to my response. I was responding out of habit. Had my coach not challenged me, I would have probably accepted my responses as fact. And had I done that, who knows whether or not I would have ever gotten around to trying any of my new ideas.

What Goals are You Putting Off?

How many things in your life - new ideas, trips, classes, etc. - are you putting off doing because it just isn't quite the right time? Are you sure that the time isn't right, or are you just responding out of habit? I invite you to carefully evaluate the stories you are telling yourself about why you aren't doing these things. Are these stories truly based on facts? If not, what really is getting in your way?

As I looked more closely at my own situation and what might be motivating the story I told my coach, I began to see that there are many reasons why we might make up excuses and stories in order to procrastinate or postpone taking action. See if any of these fit for you.

Evaluate Your Excuses for Procrastination

1. You don't want to do the project, but on some level you feel you should do it, or have to do it. But instead of clearly stating how you feel, you circumvent the issue by coming up with reasons why now is not the right time. However, this approach just leaves you feeling guilty and you still have the task hanging over our head. If you give yourself permission to say "No", you would free up a lot of energy that could be focused towards something you really want to do.

2. You really want to do the project but you don't feel comfortable taking the time and energy away from other, "more important" tasks. You feel selfish for focusing on something you want, so you create stories about why this isn't a good time to do it. You tell yourself that as soon as everything and everyone else is taken care of, it will be okay for you to do your thing. As selfless as this approach sounds, it usually leaves you feeling frustrated and resentful.

3. You really want to do the project but you don't whether you're up to the task. What if you fail? If you can come up with logical reasons why you need to put off starting the project, you can delay the possibility of failing. Unfortunately, with this approach, you also delay the possibility of succeeding.

4. You really want to do the project but you find yourself wondering what will happen if you are successful. Maybe you don't see yourself in terms of being successful and so the thought of experiencing success could be both frightening and exciting.

Or perhaps you know you could be successful, but you're not sure you're ready to embrace the effects your success might have on your life. You need a little more courage to take this leap; so in order to give yourself a more time, you come up with several things that you need to accomplish before you take this on this project.

Don't Let Fear Hold You Back

As you can see, there are legitimate fears and concerns that arise when we think about doing something new or out of the ordinary. That's the very nature of change. The key is to not let these issues hold you back from doing what you want and living your life as fully as possible.

Start paying attention to when you use stories to rationalize not taking action. When you notice this happening, take a moment to see if you can uncover the fear or concern hiding behind the story. Maybe you don't want to do whatever it is, maybe you are worried about taking time for your own interests, or maybe you are just experiencing the fear of the unknown. Whatever the specific issue is, once you bring it out into the light of day, it will lose its power and you will be free to move forward with you life.

 

Mary Ann Bailey, MC, is a life coach who specializes in working with people going through midlife career transitions. She is also the author of the recently published book, Changing Course, Changing Careers. Visit her website at www.baileycoaching.com to read more of her articles and to learn how coaching can help you make the changes you want to make in your life.