a Loved One Dies
I sat and listened to my friend pour out her
heart to me, I felt helpless. Four months ago
Debbie lost her mother to cancer, and she was
overwhelmed by a flood of grief and sorrow.
miss her so much," Debbie cried. As I watched the tears
stream down her face, the only comfort I could provide was
to listen, and to hold her. Words seemed inadequate. She
needed to feel that her pain was felt and shared, even if
it was hers alone. I quietly prayed for God to give Debbie
peace and comfort; then I prayed that God would give me
a genuine understanding of the sorrow that gripped her heart.
is perhaps the most misunderstood reality of life. Perhaps
what is even more misunderstood - especially by those who
have never lost a loved one - is grief and the subsequent
process of mourning.
to empathize with Debbie has helped me learn some things
about the grieving process. First of all, I've learned that
grief is what we all feel when we experience a significant
often, of course, this loss involves death. However, grief
also accompanies divorce. It can result from losing a job.
It occurs when someone or something we have loved and valued
in our lives is no longer there. The resulting separation
can be very painful.
is not something you can simply "get over". We
need to learn to live with it over time. Still, it is not
just "time" itself that brings healing - it is
what we do with that time that makes the greatest difference.
on the other hand, is how you practically work out those
feelings of grief. Each of us will respond differently.
Debbie's way of handling the grief was through a spiritual
journey. As a relatively new Christian believer, Debbie
had many questions concerning her mother's death. Questions
like, "Is there really a place called heaven we will
actually go to when we die?" "Will we see our
loved ones there?"
with these questions from my friend, I felt inadequate to
provide answers. I needed the wisdom that comes from the
book I have grown to love over the years - the Bible, God's
Word. This book provides the hope and comfort we all so
desperately need when faced with issues like death.
read God's Word about death one truth became clear. Death
is not the end; it is not the final event, as many believe.
The Bible clearly teaches us that life goes on after we
leave this earth. When Jesus told his followers that he
was going to die, they had many questions. They wanted to
know where He was going, and whether they could they follow
Him to this place. He assured them that He was going to
a place called heaven, and if they chose to believe in Him,
they would indeed follow.
a comfort that must have been for them! And what assurance
that provides to us as well. Jesus said that He is the way
to the Father; all we need to do is believe in Him and trust
in His salvation, and we will inherit eternal life in heaven.
Debbie, these promises from the Bible have provided the
hope and comfort she so desperately needed in grieving the
loss of her mother. Though she is still working through
some questions, her faith in God is giving her the peace
she needs each day as she moves through the pain. She has
the hope of seeing her mother again in heaven.
continue to walk with her through this time,
I know that Debbie is also assured that the
hope she has in a future heaven, is the same
hope that fills the void in her heart right
now in this life. And that is a hope that will
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